What Would I Be Doing Right Now?

What would I be doing right now?

        This is a common question that I get from potential slaves all the time.  I really never know how to take that question. I always wonder to myself, Are they asking because they genuinely are interested in the types of things I might have them doing or are they trying to steer the conversation into a role play back and forth between us, which I think is completely pointless. No, it doesn’t make my dick hard to talk about this shit.    

         Inevitably, they always hate the answer I give because I always say “How the fuck would I know?” Which I don’t know, I can’t predict the future any more than they can. I mean I could make up some hypothetical scenario to appease their mind but it would be a lie because I really don’t know.      
  Another possible answer to the above question is “Whatever I need you to be doing at the moment.”  This statement usually doesn’t garner any better reception on the submissive’s part, but it’s another true answer. I expect and demand my slaves to be ready to serve me 24/7. There is no amount of time during the day or night that belongs to my boy. It doesn’t matter if it is getting me a glass of lemonade, 3 hour fuck session or if I am allowing a boy to sleep, his time always belongs to me.    

       So, I guess what I am saying is, in answer to that question, “Does it really matter?” As long as you are doing what you have been told you to do, you are serving and pleasing, and that is all that ever matters.  If your goal is to become a Total Power Exchange slave you should be ready for and expect to do anything at any time. There is no way you could be given every possible duty that would be expected of you. You roll with the flow, and obey your Master. In a reality, that is all you need to know.

Important Shit…Stop Jacking off for a Minute and Read

This post is going to be short, but probably one of the most important I have written so far.

     Tonight I had a slave prospect of mine tell me that he has been struggling with depression lately and he has recently considered suicide.      

      I told him and now I am telling you, if any one of who read my blog is struggling with any type of depression or other issues reach out to someone and get help.  If you don’t have someone close to you contact me and we will talk though the shit.

     Do Not Suffer In Silence…there is always a way and another day.

The Wrong Fucking Idea....

During the course of conversation with some prospective slaves I have had them say to me that they were “giving up a lot” in order to become my slave. For me, this immediately eliminated them from any further consideration in my mind.

This statement tells me that they do not have a grasp of what the life of a service slave is all about. I could take the time to try and educate them (and some Masters might) but, at this point in my life I don’t have time for it, I just move on to the next.

What these boys (that make that comment) fail to understand is that they aren’t giving up anything (expect their freedom). They are gaining a person in their life that has their best interest at heart. Someone who wants them to succeed and will actually push and motivate them to do more than even they could imagine.

A slave needs to know that these ideas of living 24 hours a day shackled and hooded in someone’s basement are ridiculous and not realistic. A slave isn’t giving up life when he submits to a Master.  He should be gaining a partner that is going to push him to be the best version of himself that he can be.  If a slave thinks anything other than that, he has gotten the wrong fucking idea…

MD

Sex vs. Service

     You will hear me use the term “service” or “service slave” a lot.  I thought I would clarify what exactly I am talking about.

     A service slave does any and everything his Master asks of him to make the Master’s life easier and contribute to the household.  It could be anything from cleaning, cooking, working a job for income, washing the car, washing the dog, mowing the grass, fucking, driving the Master around, any other sex acts the Master enjoys.  Basically anything.

     I listed all of those chores because I have been in conversation with potential slaves and I tell them I expect them to do “anything” they are ordered to do.  A look of confusion comes across their face more often than not and they actually ask me what anything means.  LOL, anything means anything. A service slave is there to serve, and enjoys it while he is doing it.

     Problems start to arise because a lot of people use the term service a code word for sucking or fucking a cock. I think this is the boy needs to be aware of who he is talking to and what the context the word is used based on the prior conversation.  I can guarantee you that if a Master is talking to you about being a Total Power Exchange slave in his household he expects more out of you besides sex.

     Just remember if you are talking to a TPE slave Master be prepared to serve and “anything” literally means anything.

MD

Keeping It Real...

The one thing I value most when talking to a slave prospect is the boy’s honesty.  I don’t need you to blow yourself up to be more than you are or dumb yourself down either if you are an intelligent boy. I need you to be forthcoming with information about yourself and your current situation. In other words, I need you to keep it real. 

My initial goal in my first contact with a boy is to find out if you are even a prospect I would like to own. I have my own preferences and things that I look for when evaluating a new boy, and I am sure other Masters have their own criteria and initial checklist. Sure, I want to know about your fetishes and what turns you on and off, I definitely want to talk about that, but I also want to know about you personally.  I need to know if you are the type of person I want to train, and more importantly want in my home on a full time basis.

The connection between a Master and slave is a journey. It starts with that initial contact I make with a boy I hopefully will continue to grow throughout the time that I own him.  It can be one of the strongest most emotional connections you will ever have in life, but it starts with being honest and open about yourself, your life, and the direction you want it to take.

So, remember starting with that first conversation with your potential new Master…Keep it Real!

MD

Boy being punished....

Traveling Down A Dusty Road

Now is a good time to go back and review a piece I wrote a few days ago called Just Who Do You Think You Are?, because after you have thought about your likes and dislikes and what you really want to get out of being a submissive, you are now in a position to begin talking to and approaching a Master.

By knowing which category of slave you think you are in and possibly what you want to grow into, you can narrow down the pool of Masters you contact thus saving His time and you heartache.

 For instance, if you know that you are only looking for sex why would you approach a Master that has clearly stated that he is looking for a long-term boy who is willing to relocate on the other hand if you are someone who is looking for a fresh start in a new city why bother a local Master who is only looking for a weekend hookup.

Now I know those 2 examples are simplistic and there are shades of gray in every situation, but I am just trying to make the point that you should stay in your lane, know who you are and where you think you want to go and search for a Master that fits your interest and can help you get to where you want to be.

If you follow this advice it should clear some dust off this road to becoming a slave. 
MD

Tip of the Night.....

If any of you have ever chatted with me on any dating website you know that I always have a face picture posted.  I dont have anything to hide nor time for bullshit. I think my profiles are pretty clear that I look for Total Power Exchange slaves or those who want to be trained into the lifestyle.

So, answer this question...Why in the fuck after having chatted with me on a website enough that I felt comfortable giving you my phone number to continue the conversation would the first thing you say to me via text is "pic?"

Really? Really? That's all your mind can think of to say to me. What exactly do you want to see?  You treat me like a common whore you would find on any gay app in the country?

Let's be clear I am not here to entertain you...I am here to educate you and possibly find someone worthy to add to my household.  If you intentions are anything other than that please find someone else that is on your same level and you two can entertain each other.

So here is my advice for the night...approach a Master with something of substance to say and with something to offer.  Don't ask me "what will I be doing if I come to you"  be able to tell me what you can do for me.  I dont know what the fuck you can do, you are supposed to be selling yourself for a position in my household.

If anyone has any questions about this and you dont want to be embarrassed publicly by asking your question in the comments feel free to contact me in private and I will be glad to coach you.

MD

Race...Lets talk about it....

Let me start out by saying I could absolutely give two fucks about what race you belong too.  You obviously know that I am a Black. My race is clearly posted in the title of this blog and my picture is posted on my Intro page.  No secrets, full disclosure right?

     I wrote a piece earlier in the week where I talked about what I look for initially when I meet a boy (usually on the internet); its things like mindset, attitude, I listen carefully to the questions he asks…I can do all of this without seeing a picture or knowing what anything about him because if those initial things don’t suit my needs I automatically know that he won’t work for my household.  I say all of this just to emphasize the point that I don’t care what race you are...to me you are a slave prospect, nothing more nothing less.

     Now with that said I am also not naïve enough to know that people have preferences in what they like or dislike.  This is perfectly fine with me as well.  I see profiles on dating apps all the time that say “not into black guys” or “white boys not my thing” and that’s fine by me.  I actually appreciate the information because these people can immediately go on my block list and I can move on and not have to see them.  No harm done.  I haven’t wasted my time.

     The problems with race start to happen when people begin to sexualize stereotypes about a certain race. For instance, it is ok to have a preference for Black men. There are a myriad of reasons you may have that preference, but when you only have that preference because you think Black men have a Big Black Cock, then you have crossed the line from preference into racist. 

     I experience this on almost any day that I am online on the dating apps. Most times it happens about the 3^rd message into a conversation. It goes something like this, Them: Hey Me: What’s Up Them: Horny Me: OK Them: How big is your cock?

Now at this point I am at a crossroad. I can answer truthfully, not at all, make up a large number, or make up a small number. I have conducted my own unscientific experiments by trying all 4 options.  If I give a crazy large number the conversation goes on and on and invariably they are willing to come meet me (this complete stranger) to get a dick that they probably can’t take anyway. [As a quick side note, last night an 18 year old virgin was concerned about my dick size and said he wanted a Big Black Cock. LOL. I told him he wouldn’t be able to take it anyway, then I would just be pissed. But of course my satisfaction wasn’t of concern to this boy, as he was only interested in BBC (probably some shit he seen in a video).] If I give a smaller number than what they are expecting (which may still be the size of an average penis) usually the conversation is over.

So what these people have is a fetish based off of a stereotype. They could fucking care less about me, or my life, or getting to know me.  They are operating on a stereotype that gets them off sexually based on what they think the size of a certain races dick should be.

Now, before you accuse me singling out white people for fetishizing Blacks, it also happens in other races as well and it is just as stupid and racist on their part.  I have heard Blacks say let’s go get a white boy, whites are nasty they will do anything or the belief that a white boy has money and will pay for this or that.  It happens both ways.

My point is like who you like, love who you love, just know that when you turn a stereotype into the reason why you like a particular group you are walking a fine line, a line that can easily cross into an area in which you didn’t intend to be.

Please post your questions or comments on this topic.  I would love to facilitate a positive discussion that may benefit everyone.

MD

You know,in my mind one of the attributes a slave has to have is selflessness. 

A slave in my household has be be able to to put his personal wants aside for not only his Master, but the greater good of the household.  This is a hard thing for kids today to learn because we not only live in a "me" society but they are conditioned very early to be self sufficient and take care of themselves.

Many boys think that somehow they are less of a man if they are relying on someone else to provide for them, this is what has been drilled into them for many years.

However, that mind set, on its face, is the opposite of what living a slave household is all about.  My households emphasize the collective, one man helping another for his own satisfaction and ultimately to gain the satisfaction and approval of Master. 

MD

It's early or late depending on how you want to look at it.   Anyway, I am still awake. Just popped another Xanax ....hoping it takes me to sleep soon... while I'm waiting for that to kick in I thought I would drop another post...

I have been thinking what is the one hardest thing I have to teach a new slave.   I think most have trouble with patience. They don't realize that their time is no longer theirs, I own it. So, if I have them doing a menial task or nothing at all as long as I am happy it shouldn't matter what they are doing.

For example, if my slave is driving me around town and waiting in the car for me for 2 hours he should be fine because he is doing as instructed.  I find that I do a lot of exercises to teach this skill.

So slaves be patient, your Master will call you when you are needed.

Is it in your heart?

Yesterday I discussed what I think are the top four or five main types of slaves that I encounter as I am prospecting and looking for new recruits.  Whichever group or combination of groups you fall into I want you to know its ok. They are all normal and perfectly acceptable. As long as you are happy and healthy that’s all that really matters, at least to this Master.

However, there are some of you who may still feel unfulfilled. You have found this lifestyle and you know you enjoy one or more aspects of it, but you still don’t feel you have reached the level of personal satisfaction and fulfillment you deserve.  So, the question is how do I go from where I am to being a TPE slave for a Master?

The first thing you need to do is a lot of self-reflection. Look inwards at yourself. TPE slavery isn’t for everyone, hell, honestly it isn’t for most.  You have to know in your heart that you will live an unfulfilled life unless you are in the service of a man.

  Now I am not suggesting that you are going to just roll over and give into those feelings.  You won’t.  You have been taught your entire life that it is unnatural and that boys don’t submit to other men or women for what it’s worth.  You most likely grew up with parents trying to teach you to be an Alpha man.  So you will instinctively fight submitting. This is the reason most boys don’t ever acknowledge that feeling of submission and subservience in themselves.  They go through life knowing something isn’t right.  It doesn’t matter how smart you think you are, your social status, your color, race, religion or sexual orientation or anything else, if you are a beta boy, you know it, you may never admit it, but you know it.  You cannot and will not ever be an Alpha.

The second thing I want you to do is find a competent Master to talk to.  This may or may not be the Master you ultimately submit to, but he should be someone who has experience and can talk to you about the lifestyle.  Now, don’t fill the conversations with talk of cocks, cages, fucking, sucking and cum.  If that is the Master’s focus find a new one. You want to talk about the lifestyle, talk about your goals and aspirations and how they can fit into the life of a slave.  Be respectful of the Masters time and upfront with your intentions and this can be a great tool to help you decide it TPE is right for you.

Deciding to become a TPE slave is a big step in a boy’s life.  Some come to the conclusion quickly, others take longer to accept it and even more never even realize it is an option.  My advice is take your time with it and be sure in your heart it is right for you.

MD

Boy displays hole

Tip of the night.....

     Many have asked me what name I would like to be called or how to address me...My advice to you would be to start out with Sir when approaching a Master for the first time.  It is simple and shows that you are trying to be respectful.  I have never disciplined a boy for calling me Sir, so I dont think you can go wrong!

MD

Just who do you think you are?

So the question is what are you?  I think people become interested in this lifestyle for varying reasons, therefore they have varying ideas about what it means to be a submissive.  Here are a few of the main categories I see out there:

1) Sex Slave: This is probably the most common type of boy out there.  This boy has probably learned about the lifestyle by watching porn and reading stories on the internet.  These stories were probably based around gang bang and constant, 24/7 sex and now he has in his mind that this is what the lifestyle is all about.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with this approach if this is what you want.  There are plenty of men who will take you and use you for a night or a weekend and happily send you on your way.  You can submit your body to them in any way or as long as you want and as long as each party is satisfied no harm done.  The key here is that you are submitting your body and nothing else.  There is no expectation of a higher level mental or emotional connection beyond the sex.

2) Kink Slave: This can also be called a fetish slave.  This type of boy has something specific that gets him off.  He seeks to find compatible partners on the opposite side of the fetish he is into.

The type of fetish really doesn’t matter.  It could be abdl, foot fetish, scat, sado/maso, whatever his brain has been conditioned to need to get him off.  These boys aren’t really interested in submitting beyond that narrow box that their brain has been conditioned to need.  Conversation with this type of boy will seldom change from their fetish interest.  So there really isn’t much submitting done to a Master for this type of boy. It is really a narrow minded self-serving interest in their own fetish.  

3) Cash Slave: Yes this is a thing.  It really could be put under a fetish but I broke it out to highlight it.  Simply put there are submissives/slaves that get off and spending and sending money to their Master.  You can think it’s right or wrong or not understand it but just like any other fetish you aren’t into, you shouldn’t judge what other people do.

4) Service Slave: A service slave is basically on that lives to serve his Master. It maybe be cleaning is house, cooking his meals, serving guest at a dinner party, mowing his lawn, anything that makes the dominants life easier.  This type of slave gets off on serving another man. Many times it doesn’t matter if the Master is gay or straight this boy just enjoys and gets satisfaction from what he does.  There may or may not be sex involved when dealing with a service slave.

5) Total Power Exchange Slave: This type of boy in my mind is really the ultimate type of slave (and the kind I look for personally).  This boy has thought about and realized what he is and is ready to embrace his destiny.  He knows that there are Alphas and betas in the world and is ready to stop trying to be the Alpha everyone around him thinks he is going to be.

A TPE slave is really the embodiment of all 4 previous slave types already discussed.  A good Master will take a boy like this and completely reprogram him to be a slave for life. A TPE slave gives his Master complete autonomy and control of his life.  This means the relationship is built on trust, not sex. The boy is willing to disrupt and start his life again with his Master as he knows that deep down no matter what he accomplishes in his life he won’t be satisfied with that guiding force beside him. This is the ultimate connection between Master and slave where a Master is going to connect and mold this boy on a social, physical, mental and sometimes even spiritual level.  This type of boy is capable of being a 24/7 live in slave.

     OK, that is a lot to read and digest in one sitting so I am going to leave it there for now.  I am sure that will generate some questions and comments, so post those as well, so that we are all learning from each other.

MD

What are the qualities I look for in a new slave?

It’s late and I am awake, so I thought I would post something. I will tell you right now grammar and spelling are optional for me on these late night post so bear with me.

     I was going to talk about the different types of submission and give you some definitions, but a question was asked by one of the followers of the blog tonight so I think I will answer that instead.

I was asked what do I think makes a good submissive/slave?

     The first thing I try to assess when I start a conversation with a boy is his mindset.  Does he have the mindset to be molded into what I want him to be?  Now I may not know what that is yet, but I want to know that he is open to accepting new ideas.

     Secondly, I want to know what the boys motivation is for wanting to enter this lifestyle.  Is it sex driven, is he running from something, or has he always felt in his heart this is what he was meant to do? It could be anything and they are all valid reasons and there is no right or wrong answer but at least it gives me insight as to where he is coming from.

     Most of the contacts I make for a new recruit is through the internet.  I can assess the 2 qualities I just mentioned before I even see what a boy looks like.  I don’t care what he looks like at that point.  If he doesn’t have the right mindset it doesn’t matter what the hell he looks like.  As a matter of fact I had a boy approach me this week that fits that example perfectly.  He is a pretty boy but he rambled on and on about sucking and fucking and all this shit that is only discussed in middle school bathrooms across America.  Needless to say I lost interest in about 3 minutes as he was not of the mindset I look for.  

     So mindset and motivation those are the first qualities I look for in a new prospect.

OK I am outta here…

MD

Intro

I get it! You are horny! We are all horny!

 However, sometimes we have to pull back from that and ask ourselves what are we really doing? What do we expect to get from this lifestyle? (other than bust a nut) What does being a submissive/slave really mean?

This blog is being set up for the boys I am currently recruiting (and those I am not) to learn my thoughts about the lifestyle and what it takes to serve me. I will attempt to explain my philosophy and hopefully give you a clearer perspective on what being owned by me entails.

If you have come to this site to watch video clips and gawk at pictures of boys doing nasty things to each other you are at the wrong place, there are plenty of other places and time to do that. This will an educational place where we can interact and you can learn before you take your place in my household.

I am going to try to post daily. So check the site often and jump in with your questions or comments.